Bali Wedding Butler - STAY AWAY!

As some of you might know, I've just had my wedding in beautiful bali. And because of the wedding held in bali, i waited for it to be over so i can tell you guys out there my worst experience with the specific wedding planner.

I found her on tripadvisor posted by someone. She is from Bali Wedding Butler and her full name is Sri Komang Desyana. You can actually find her on google search and linkedin. My husband and I have never met anyone like her. 

I will try to make the story as short as possible:

She was very enthusiastic at first (before you paid her) and replied to us quickly as if she had nothing better to do. But because of her promptness, we picked her. We met up for a quick inspection of the villas and she brought us to villa anapuri and i decided to changed my wedding date from 19 sept to 26 sept (just for anapuri as it was full on 19th). we also initally liked villa arika but we preferred anapuri but we failed to negotiate for better price so we ended up with beautiful arika. (we missed arika)

There was some misunderstanding as i wanted the wedding on the 19th sept at villa arika, she contacted my husband without my knowledge (thru whatsapp) and asked if 26th is ok for arika. Both were in the wrong as they did not mention it to me. 19th at arika was booked by others and i was not too happy (that's why i prefer email with CC). We almost lost the villa to other couple but luckily, they released the booking. (i found arika on my own without her help)

After paying her the sum of USD1200 (coordination fee for 80 pax + commitment fee (both 50%)), we proceeded with vendors. We tried to ask her to help negotiating with the vendors of her choice but she failed to deliver. She did not even try to ask for best price. She insisted us to make downpayment (50%) and negotiate later on. I think smart people will never do that :)

Because of her ignorance, we decided to move forward with our own vendors (reputable one of course). She promised to come back with another catering vendor but again, failed to do so. She disappeared for as long as 4 months from november 2014 til march 2015. My husband emailed her and she replied that caterer did not give new rate. It was already march, i guess every vendors want to make a dime!

Since she refused to work, we decided to give her the vendors we will be working with. She was "OK" with it. She wasn't happy because we did not pick any of her vendors (if she worked well, we will take some from her). She even said we have to take their "BAND" called AZIMUTH. but i guess like every other couple, they would check out the vendor mentioned to see if they are really as good as how she described. again, failed to see information about such band. That's when i found Soul Entertainment.

I still took her as an experienced WP (she mentioned couple of times that her clients always said her work is beyond expectations) and because of that, i was looking for an advise from her regarding DJ. she did not try to help me (that's a wedding planners' job). Instead, she said "You talk to the band, You have to talk to decorator.. you this and you that." She also mentioned that her crew and herself will leave the premises before 12am regardless of other vendors still in the compound. My heart sank.. I wanted to cry because it was 3 months away from our big day. by now you know how i felt. It was a nightmare.

She used to scare us about other vendors outside her comfort zone. She is so negative about everything but herself. She mentioned other caterer uses cheap staff and that they will not deliver. But because i'm an indonesian myself, i was not scared. Everything is all about social media. We know good vendors from reviewers. 

She also threatened us by making a complaint with Bali Wedding Association. Little did she know, I know some people who had mentioned to me that she doesn't have good relation with the owner. 

At the end, We know we HAD TO fire her. Before we do so, i contacted bali luxury villas (villa agent for arika) and talked to the General Manager Kathryn Whyte. She was very helpful and we finally fired desyana. With proper and respectable email, we sent her one last email to tell her we no longer needed her services. 

After all the complications, she still managed to pat herself in the back. Mentioned she intro us to Soul Entertainment when the one sh intro was AZIMUTH. It was funny really... The Wedding Planner Bali Wedding Butler was so bad we had to dismiss her. If we hadn't, i wonder what it would become. But because we fired her, we had the best wedding ever in Villa Arika. 

Just a little advise for couple out there who are planning for a wedding, and if you have a bigger wedding (more than 50), find someone who is reputable from Bali Wedding Association. You can find good vendors via the website and if they did not deliver, you can make a report to the association. I've learnt my lesson and only advise i can give is to always make sure your planner is legit and well mannered. After all, you don't want your money to go to waste. We wasted USD1200 for her NOT doing anything but things happened for a reason. I guess the reason is this :)

Cheers!

(I've tried to summarize as much as possible, I might have left some informations. Feel free to ask any questions. But no questions from YOU DESYANA)

Twiggy Salon @ Penang Island (Malaysia)

What do you think of my new hair color? (Look below Before and After)
I know I'm not supposed to even chop my hair for the wedding but because it was too heavy for me to handle, i just had to do it.

If you travelled down to Penang island, malaysia, and if you like the style, go down to Twiggy Salon at Pulau Tikus or Macalister road. My hair stylist was Franson. Hair cut cost me RM50 and hair color for long hair is at RM280. But if you want to do the way i did, it will cost a little more.

But I had such a good time chit chatting with the stylist. He is a talkative man. I got my hair in brown with lavender ash.

Age doesn't define Maturity

Age doesn't define maturity. Some people can never grow up.
Despite all the experiences they have gone through.

Most people get older and they get smarter and wiser.
But for some, they stayed the same and forever be an ass.

A Wise man will not tolerate negative influence.
For some people, it is pure pleasure to ruin people's life.

A Wise man ain't a hypocrite.
They know what they are talking about and are usually make sense.

A Wise man will never shut people down.
Instead, they always have a better solution to work things out.


A Wise man knows boundaries.
Those who has lesser knowledge of being a wise person would go beyond your expectations.

A Mature man knows when to stop playing games.
Games that most people could see it wasn't a pleasant games.

A Mature man doesn't spread rumors.
They don't kiss and tell.

A Mature man listens but they never judge.
They judge only from what they see.

A Mature man doesn't need a leader/pack.
They always stand tall on their own.

A Mature man has many good friends.
Good friends that doesn't just gossip/b*tch about people but real good conversations.

If you realized that your life are basically the opposite of the above, You need a wake up call. May that be from your mother, your father, your brother, your sister, your lover but probably best to have a wake up call from YOURSELF. Stop being Vain just because you think its fun. Quit bitching just because you thought you can go anywhere with that. Mainly, STOP BULLYING! One day when life gets tough, you will taste your own medicine.

Photo courtesy: @Lifehackquotes

Cross them off the list!

Inviting friends aren't easy, especially our big day!

It is funny how we used to hang out, dinner, partying and as time goes by we all grew apart.
Friends become selfish, arrogant and envious towards one another.
Friends started to intentionally bullied (mentality) and expected to attend our wedding.

When those people we used to call friends started to disrespect us,
All we needed to do was to cross their name off the list.
Because of a petty little fights among the boys,
One of them started to be nosy and the other started to spit junk out of his mouth.

He quoted :
"I will not go to your Bachelor Party and I will not Attend your wedding"

If you were the kind of friend who knows how to appreciate Friendship,
I doubt you had that heart and mind to say such a thing.
If you had the guts to ruin a friendship over PETTY LITTLE THINGS,
Boy oh boy... You are nobody.
FYI, it was out of obligations that you were first invited,
But We are gladly uninvited you in the end because you know what...
You ain't worth it.

You lot know Bitchin' and that's all you lot do best.
Have you done anything great throughout your life?
The only thing you love doing are talk shit about other people,
Especially STRANGERS!

We are so happy that finally our real friends are attending our big day!
Let the losers find their way to shitty land.

Late post on the 6th of June 2015

The 6th of June 2015 was the most memorable day of our lives
That was the date we called ourselves Husband and Wife
We celebrated our Semi Big Day at Singapore Botanic Gardens
Along with my parents, sister and a friend from Penang
My husband's friends were there to witness too

A couple of months before we picked the date,
I struggled to find the right Solemnizer
As many as we all know that there were some negative comment on some Solemnizer
I was afraid I picked the wrong one.

There were a few that I contacted but most of them were busy
They are usually booked by other couples too

After quite a few emails, I received a respond from Dr. Eileen Aw
She is a pleasant woman and after a couple of emails,
We paid a visit at her beautiful home
She is a kind person and she joked too!
She told us what to do and reminded us of important documents

Since we were still confused with the location,
(ROM office is close on saturday and sunday)
I asked for Dr. Eileen Aw's advise as we were looking for small/informal ceremony
She suggested to go to Singapore Botanic Gardens
Both of us agreed to it!

The ceremony on that day was quick and easy
There were no complications whatsoever
We took a couple of photos with Dr. Eileen Aw
I was so blessed and happy to have her as my Solemnizer.

We also packed a token of Appreciation (Red Packet)
Since we read some comments about red packet,
We were quite nervous how much to give
And so we gave SGD60.
The ceremony lasted less than 5 minutes.
Like I said, It was QUICK and EASY!

Thank you Dr. Eileen Aw!
P.S: For some of you out there who is looking for a good Solemnizer, You can contact her HERE GOOD LUCK!